What were you hoping to gain by confronting your H?
Moving forward, especially through MLC, is a treacherous road...
One that will smack us in the face with something almost daily if we allow that to happen...
You, Denver, 2Step, want to go with the "only human" excuse, that is up to you...
However, when knowing that accepting that you are "only human" leads you to a painful place, it doesn't make much sense to me to go there...
Personally, I got to where I didn't want to hurt anymore, and I knew certain things that I did (snooping, confronting, arguing) was going to bring me pain, and I stopped doing those things...
At the time it wasn't because I was done with the M, it was because I was done allowing myself to be hurt. I was done hurting myself. Because it wasn't my H's actions that were causing the pain, it was my need to know everything, when I didn't need to know everything...
I learned everything that I really needed to learn, as I needed to learn it, without going looking for any information and I was in a much better place emotionally when I did learn it than if I had gone looking for it...
No one here in MLC is trying to be cruel to you, however, MLC is cruel, it is brutal, it is full of ugly truths that we must all learn to deal with...
In order to heal, in order to move forward, in order to be happy...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
