I did make if very clear why I was upset about the rotation. I again went over my boundries and he agreed. At this point I don't know if we are piecing or what. He says he is committed to us, but he is not showing any real signs of trying to improve the relationship. He is just here going through the motions. I don't know how hard to push and if I should still be avoiding r talks. They don't help if I bring things up it just makes him shut down.
At this point I feel like giving up. I can't live in a marriage where my needs are not being met. I don't know if it will come with time as has stopped talking with ow. He is not affectionate at all, which is my primary love language and it is killing me. I feel if I am becoming the WAW. I feel like I am giving 100% and he is just here physically.
Also in mc do I bring up my sadness and feelings of giving up or do I keep using the DB principles. It is so confusing. I don't know how honest to be in mc aside from my boundries with ow. Do I tell him I am scared and need him to meet my needs? I feel if I show my uncertantiy about the marriage it will just reinforce his thoughts of giving up and moving on.
