Lost, confused and don't know what to do!!!

[luvmyhubby]

Dazed,
As hard as it is you cannot stop her from doing what she chooses. You can only control how you react to her statements towards you. She may be doing this just to hurt you or to figure out things.

Do not dwell on what she is doing or who she is doing it with. I know this hurts! I often have my mind race and think is my H sleeping with someone because he told me he wants a D all of the sudden?
I really have to pull myself back in because this only allows me to get upset and eventually backslide. Try to use the stop sign method when you think about it. When the thought of her with someone comes up throw a big red stop sign up in your mind. Do not allow yourself to go down that path....

If things work out you can deal with these things then and until then try to not think about them. I know it hurts! All of it hurts dont show that to her at all remember to act "as if" you are moving on.
How did you respond to her when she said she was going to date?

We dont know if we have lost our spouses forever.. That is the ultimate question we wont know until the future.. You can only hold out hope that your W sees your 180's and your actual changes.

For the family vacation think about that.. Plan how you will be and what you will say. Think about how much fun you will have with your kids! This is something they will always remember so try to make it drama free and fun memory full!!!