Sorry it took me so long to reply, was out of town for a week. Kaffe, I wasn't discussing GAL with him and that was what angered him. He was upset that I was making plans with some girlfriends for a 'girls night' at one of their homes. He felt that since I was doing that, he will now plan an expensive trip to Vegas. When I expressed my concern about the cost he said that I was telling him what to do. I ended up dropping it completely. He has brought it up a time or two but I feel like he is baiting me so I haven't discussed it yet.
I m reading like crazy around here trying to get my mind around what is happening to me, and seeing so many similarities in all of the other posts. I will be re-reading DR again and hope to schedule with a DB coach this week if I can, I think I need it
I have been working to GAL. Went to church alone yesterday which was nice. H came looking for me and asked to spend time together, watching a movie of my choice. Had some time on the porch after and I had a backslide and started asking questions about relationship issues, he started to clam up again. Work days are too busy to discuss anything and days off are to enjoy and not discuss anything serious. I realized my error and zipped it. Went to bed with no further discussion, no argument.
I need to fully understand DB in order to work it which is why I am re-reading. If nothing else it will help me to GAL no matter which way things go for us.
What a crazy roller coaster this is. I don't recognize him sometimes and I don't like that feeling.
