IMO, responding to his outreach the way you did was just fine. He was concerned about you, and reached out. Don't read too much into it, but don't simply disregard it either. Baby steps. A tiny glint of light.

Hang in there.

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012