I guess its MLC-new need advice 6 months in

[25yearsmlc]

Thank you everyone. The highs and lows of this get so emotionally draining. Even with the GAL my mind still goes there.

H is an alcoholic. In addition to my friends and their "sightings" I have also been told they see him out and about often "sloppy drunk". Nice. The father of my kids.

I believe this OW doesn't mind this behavior-as you 25 have said. Two drunks shacking up together. BUt, its when they are invovled in day to day stuff. Yuck. Who will tire of who? Does he ever think of me? I know, I know.

I know its suppose to be only about me but honestly it is getting a little less every day. In my mind I feel like the more I understand their "relationship" the more I will understand whats going on. Or, to be honest, if there is hope.
Yup, being honest. Venting.

Read the after the affair book. Not so impressed. Maybe just not ready for it.

Interesting, a friend recommended it so I went by that.

as for if you'll know if there's hope if you know what's going on with them...

I don't think so. Guess I don't see how.

Meaning, don't see how you could get inside their r, let alone understand it...(Do THEY? Doubtful).


and even if you DID somehow KNOW what was going on with them, so?

how does that predict what will happen with YOU and your h?

I mean guess if they ARE ALWAYS HAPPY...and we somehow KNEW that-

then there'd be less hope??

Hmmm, the real question is,

given that life is short, and it IS SHORT
AND you have kids

what do you want to spend your precious life's energy on?

Sorry I don't have those answers for you.

(( ))