I guess I am now an official member of the DB club

[Woodman]

To GAL I am reconnecting with old friends that I used to work with. I've been retired for awhile. Also helping some old people in my Church. Bring them to Mass, mow their yard. Slowly buying a new wardrobe. Lost a fair amount of weight and I like it. Started IC and it is saving my sanity.
As far as 180's that is a tough one. With basically no contact, it is hard for her to see any changes in direction. I have stopped being such a couch potato. Walking for an hour in the evenings. I am going to make it a point to not be so needy or controlling with her, but with little or no contact, it is going to be hard for her to see.
She did know that I was doing the Love Dare. While the Love Dare got me on the road to making real changes in my life and really did a lot for me, she didn't seem too impressed. I believe she thought it was temporary and over the top and wouldn't last. I was doing it just to keep her at home. But I can tell you that it is permanent and has made a significant difference in the way I look at life and love whether we ever reconcile or not. As the book, says, the Dare never ends, and I was still living it until the day she checked out. Very sad.