I guess I am now an official member of the DB club

[Woodman]

Thanks Timetotry and DelinquentGurl. I've made it through the worst of the panic phase. I now find myself in just a sad place whenever I think about how good we had it together and it evaporated in literally a few hours. The night before she left, we had her son and his girlfriend over for dinner and they told us they were engaged! We cooked, ate, drank a little wine, and had a great celebration. After they left, we watched American Idol, laughed, talked, were making plans for another trip to TN. Then the next morning, an alien had invaded my wife's mind and body. I knew that I had issued to work on. I am controlling and since I found out about the EA last year, I have probably smothered her. But I recognised these and had been working on them. And she was finally beginning to open up and communicate a little bit. I think she has problems with loving unconditionally due to being hurt by men in her life previous to me. That includes family members.
I'm dark right now, but I really have no choice. I have no way to contact her except by email and she only checkes it sporadically. I am working on changes that I have to make whether we reconcile or not, but with no contact, she doesn't know about any of this except that she was aware that I was changeing based on the Love Dare that I did Nov/Dec. Maybe she is just not ready to believe they are real. I spend a lot of time trying to read her mind since I don't have a clue as to what really happened. My IC tells me not to try and be a mindreader. She says her thinking is so erratic now that she changes her mind constantly and I am only going to kill myself trying to keep up with what she might or might not be thinking.