In order to mentally prepare myself and to get my brain into detach mode:

Thinking long term...

I am making a list of the repairs that need to be done if we have to sell the house.
Also, I am making a list of the assets I want for the separation agreement if needed
I am going to make an asset and liabilities statement for division of property (stocks pension etc.)
Custody will have to be worked out
Who gets the dog?

What am I missing here?

Should I include my W in this process or would she see that as pressure?

Me 45 W 34 W.A.W.
3K. D11 S9 D6
M 12 y T 13 y
Bomb drop 02/22/2011
2nd written bomb (Letter bomb) 05/31/2011
Affair (A bomb) revealed 07/03/2011