Caramel corn anyone?

[courageous wife]

Hello everyone!

I cannot believe that it has been over a month since I last posted! Nothing much new has happened to report...things are going along pretty well!

H and I were on vacation at the same time last week. We went camping over the 4th and we both got a lot of stuff done around the house during the week! He got his hot rod running and we road tripped and visited with an old friend from H's past! He is reminding me more and more of the old H!!!

He is doing little things to help me around the house that he hasn't done for years...ex. help clean up dinner, put clothes in the dryer etc....not ALL the time but a lot of the time. He mowed the other day and I told him that I really missed him mowing (S15 has done a wonderful job but he doesn't cut as close to obstacles so I have to do more trimming!) and he jokingly said something to the effect of me just missing him doing things around the house...I reassured him that there were many reasons why I missed him..

Well, he just got up so more later

He and I had a convo the other night about OW...

I asked him what his attraction was to OW (we'd been talking about the sleeping pills he was convinced by her to take)...he said he honeslty could not answer that...he did not know..she was total opposite of what attracts him! He said that she took pills to go to sleep, pills to wake up etc. She even asked him for some of his sleeping pills as she went thru hers faster than a month's prescription. He believes she has a problem with popping pills!



I asked him why he stayed so long...again, he couldn't answer that...said that he knew he had made a mistake. He said SHE convinced him to file for a D promising him a better life...no responsibilities...they could go whenever they wanted to etc. He said that at first, it was fun! He could ride whenever he wanted, spent money on whatever etc. Then, he began to really miss what he had at home. He explained it as feeling like he was being lured into a trap...he owned that he knew it was wrong but he went in anyway.

I asked him why he bought her a promise ring. SHE wanted one to show commitment. She basically hounded him until he bought her one. He said he spent $60.

He made comments about how weird she was, her whole family is screwed up. He said something about her always wanting him to buy stuff for her! She didn't like it when the kids came over.

I was telling a friend that I didn't know how much to believe of what he said and she made the point that he is probably not outright lying at this time but what he is saying IS the truth as he knows it right now...hopefully more will come out as time goes by.

So far he has been willing to let me ask questions and to try and answer them. I reminded him that when he asked to come home he mentioned going to counseling and he said he still would if I wanted to.