I am so lost... Please someone help me! 2

[25yearsmlc]

And then I realize... the difference is, my W is not moving towards me. She's barely moving in parallel to me. And she is moving me OUT of her life, not continuing to leave room for me. Rather than closing the door but not locking it, she has locked the door and is closing it... it may not have latched yet...

Does that make sense?

I do get it. Basically, I have to find a way to kill my love for my wife. If things were meant to be, then maybe a new live will sprout and grow.

Or to use your analogy, perhaps in the future the two of you will open a new door...

For me, it all hinges on what my wife wants. Basically, I have to hang here in limbo until she is ready to move forward, one direction or the other... Does that make sense?

I can't say it doesn't make sense. But why don't you try to say the opposite of that sentence?

"For me, it does NOT hinge upon what my wife wants b/c I wll be happy with or without her."

And what is your plan if she says 1) nothing; or 2) she's done ...??

You gave her an ultimatum (against all the advice from here, but... no matter now)

and I fear her answer will not be what you want

BUT IF SHE DOES SAY that "OM is out"...how will you cope with not believing her?

B/C I sense you won't. How do you think she's going to enjoy that?

I sense trust issues so, you'll have to struggle with that too.

And that's if she says she DOES want to work on the m.

The poll taking is such a bad idea, for you especially. You're very pulled,

and you seem to be the victim of the last strong opinion you hear.


I wish for you peace and clarity from within, NOT "hinged" on her.

Hinged solely on YOU.


If only you knew that the one chance you have with her,

is from a position of strength. That comes from detaching and NOT "hinging" on her actions/words...