Update: Well, H is slipping a bit already. He was at the bar two nights last week while I was at alanon and art night. I told him that his choices are his, and my choice is to not be with him if thats the way he wants to live. I said, I will not put up with those same old habits.
I said what I meant and meant what I said, and I said it nicely.
It took courage for me to say it, but he seemed to understand and I am glad I spoke up instead of just bite my lip(like I used to). He said he would try harder. This next week I will be looking for actions. If I dont see any good changes. I will tell tell him I want more distance. Which I allready have taken some distnace yesterday and today, to show him, its not ok with me.
This is so hard. I hate watching him slip. It puts me in a weird spot. But I am taking care of myself and trying to not let his choices bother me. I am GALing to stay busy and to keep the focus on me. UHHHGG!!! Patience!!! TIPPER
