I am so lost... Please someone help me! 2

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You have a right to feel insecure J1.

It's because your relationship is NOT secure.

You have to decide what you can and can't handle.

I, like you needed to hear my W tell me it was over with OM.

That way any further contact with OM constituted a lie.

I'm like you J1. I wasn't going to take it.

I don't believe anyone has the right to disrespect you...

BUT YOU MUST DO THE FOLLOWING...

ASK, and then let it go.

You can not harp on her every time she goes out...

Your sanity is MUCH more important than you W... IMO...

Remember this always...

"Save your marriage if it's possible! Save yourself no matter what!"

Good luck!