Last Feb-11, I first posted on this site about my rapidly developing sitch with a WAW in MLC. Your H at the time had left you and I believe was with OW. I was completely lost and clueless and looking for answers. I was also curious why you (or any one of us for that matter) would put up with this nonsense from our spouses.
I asked you something like, "was your H really worth all this trouble?" Your response was that you knew that your H was a good man, and yes he was worth going through these trouble times, and you were choosing to stand. Shortly thereafter it appears your H decided to recommit and you continue to work hard on your R while setting healthy boundaries. You seem to understand that even now, there are now guarantees, yet you soldier on.
Al, I've been going through 6 months of heavy doubts about my future with my W. This is a very short time to spend in MLC land. However, I am already toying with the idea of dating, mostly to prop up my own lagging ego. Decidedly a bad idea, given my R with my wife is better now that it was a few months ago. My kids need me to be stable and strong. And yes, my W is worth the wait. She is inherently a good person. Just lost and trying to find herself. She needs this time alone, to think, to grow, to become the person she needs to be. So do I. Thankfully, hers is a relatively low grade MLC, so no drama involved. Time and space are the gifts I can give her. Detachment to curb my controlling "Mr. Fix It" behaviors. Boundaries to let her live her life and for me to continue to GAL myself.
