7 weeks to exH marries OW

[lea74]

So have been thinking about this OW and her pushy ways and have decided to turn it on its head.

When xH first moved out I wanted nothing to do with him and didnt correspond with him with regards to our kids and what they were doing. Childish I know but my thinking was if you dont want to be apart of our daily lives, then you dont deserve to know what is going on in our lives. Also, it was suggested to me that perhaps the reason why OW gets so involved in the parenting relationship is that she knows that no matter what as xH and I have kids together we will always be in each others lives and will have to have some sort of relationship regarding this. Therefore as she is obviously so insecure in her own (and who wouldnt be when you both cheated on your spouses at the beginning of the relationship) she feels that she has to meddle in what is the last remaining part of the relationship that xH and I have in order to break this down as well. I guess she is threatened by the fact that I am always going to be a part of his life in someway. So, I decided to send him photos of my S11 leavers service and also photos of S8 birthday yesterday. I am sure that the answer will be 'WE loved seeing them etc'. But that is fine I am ready for it.

I have decided to stop being defensive and I guess be the adult in this relationship. I will keep xH informed of sons activities etc and anything else he may need to know. Not ready yet to embrace her as my sister wife (he he) not sure I ever will. My obligation and responsibility will only ever be to the father of my children and I guess I am going to have to be the one to work on this. Anyway I dont think it is good for the soul to be so angry all the time.