hey grr i am glad that you are here in MLC I think it is place you belong with your H. He is clearly off his rocker.
I've heard that the MLC forum is a pretty rough forum where punches are rarely held and the advice is good and sharp but can also be somewhat brutal.
I just wanted to stop by and give you a hug.
Dumb decision will come and unless you are a robot or are so far gone emotionally from your sitch that nothing really affects you I don't see how anyone would have a hard time understanding why they happen.
Some call it snooping some call it verification of what you think you know.
I don't know. I guess it is a matter of interpretation.
Since I believe detachment happens through a series of events not based on one single action I can totally see how you would check on H. After all, their feelings are no less valuable than yours.
Are you ready for the stuff you will find though?
Probably not.
That is ok because you will get there, one way or another.
It is important for us to recognize and remember that people are in different aspects of the journey so while sometimes they need a 2x4 sometimes all they need is some encouragement.
I have followed your sitch for some time and believe completely that your H is in full blown MLC and I have read the MLC forum for awhile and think some very wise posters come here.
