I don't think I've told my W I've had trouble sleeping. Any time she's mentioned sleep issues for herself, I just kind of give the "uh-huh".
Originally Posted By: Telemark
I'm not reading anything into this, and I'm still on guard against a mood swing that will come my way (and we all know it will), but it was a pleasure to spend time together and enjoy each other's company.
Baby steps, baby steps, baby steps.
This is a good approach. Enjoy it for what it was. Be prepared for the pull back.
We had an R/M talk this past Sunday, initiated by W. Basically, nothing new was said; W still had no love for me, didn't know whether to stay or go and while she admitted to her own wrongdoings during our M, she blamed me for most of the problems. She did say OM was no longer "in the picture" and he was more of a friend to her than anything else.
Uh-huh...
I had mentioned in a previous post that our bank accounts are visible to each other online. She has sent OM more money, and on Sunday (right after our talk) paid $250 to a company called "E-Move", an online company that provides self-moving services and self-storage.
I don't know what to do with this information. Do I confront her to find out what her true intentions are? Wait for what is inevitably going to be the "I'm leaving" speech? Beat her to the punch and tell her it's decision time? Ask if she's financing the OM to move closer to her?
Mentally and emotionally, I think I'm prepared for her to move out. It will hurt but I will go on. It's waiting for her to make a decision that is the most difficult.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
Do none of that and just GAL. Let her do her thing, but let her know that you will be separating the accounts and yadda yadda yadda. Don't do it angrily just explain that she chose to do this and this is just another natural step in the decision she made.
It will hurt but you need to show her you are strong and do not need her.
Remember she needs to see the consequences of her actions. If you confront her it will just embolden her.
"It will hurt but you need to show her you are strong and do not need her."
You are right, of course, gb90. If you read the first post in my new thread, you'll see I'm reaching that point. It just annoys me that she continues to lie through her teeth about everything and assumes I'm a fool.
Which I know is textbook WAW behavior.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
