[quote=MrBond]"Have you noticed that you put the blame on your W for "making" you feel the way you do? Maybe her moods have been flipping because she's been dealing with your flips for so long. As far as I can tell, you're the one on the rollercoaster...not her.
I'm guess I'm not clear when I post. I've always acknowledged that I'm the one with issues, not my W. I don't blame my W for responding the way she does b/c I know that I've caused the situation in the first place. I guess I'm frustrated b/c I keep hurting her.
When my W "flips" emotionally, I instantly feel angry and disappointed that I've created this situation in the first place. Maybe I feel anger b/c it gives me a sense of control that normal communicating doesn't. I'm not as "quick off the mark" as my W, so I'm easily caught off guard, which genially results in an instinctive reaction; for me, that's always been anger.
