So sorry to see that the prior course of action has continued.
There is not likely to be a verbalized "answer" to the kids intervention.
His continued course of action is his answer. If it changes, you'll know.
I'm a believer in God, but I know divorces still happen.[b] Bad things happen to good people.[/b]We know this.
While I don't think this act of your h comes from God at all, I also know that there's no use in assuming He will solve all our problems while we are here on earth.
Perhaps it's best to ask God for the strength & faith to handle whatever comes, rather than praying for a specific result or outcome.
Just a thought.
As for the notes from your h, I agree it would be confusing if this were new behavior. But it's not.
Your h is one of those "amicable" types who wants to be a nice guy WHILE divorcing his wife.
There are worse problems to have, but if his kindnesses are misinterpreted by you, your progress will be hindered and possibly stopped.
I think his actions (leaving, staying gone, and filing for divorce) are clear enough.
Sorry... I know it's confusing but to me, unless and until he
SAYS and ACTS as if he wants back into the marriage, I think you have to keep on keeping on, and detaching
and GAL and moving forward as if a pending divorce is the reality of things. B/c for now, it is.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I know it's confusing but to me, unless and until he 