7 weeks to exH marries OW

[lea74]

So got a lot on my mind today. So really journaling.

My biggest issue I face now is the OW. She obviously isnt a very nice person but this OW is boardering on 'bunny boiler'!!

We had issues last year where she used to text me all the time. A couple of them were:

1. Congratulations on your divorce..........
2. Please give the boys a big hug from me .......... (this would be my sons)
3. Isnt it funny we are going to have the same name ............

My xH has court ordered telephone contact three times a week and she used to be put ont he phone to chat to my sons each time. The judge agreed that this shouldnt happen as the contact was for my xH and not her. I did agree that on occasion she could chat to them. This seemed to work for a while and now I notice that she is more frequently talking to them. whilst it isnt that that bothers, it is the principle that 1. she is taking time away from my sons and their and secondly she has been told by a judge not to interfere.

In addition, she used to text them alot. I dont believe this is neccessary as they are too young to be receiving texts late at night anyway or from another adult woman. (Initially when they didnt have a phone she used to text them on my phone - the cheek!)

She attended the parents evening at my sons school and the other a meeting intended for parents. Ironically she is not even M to their dad yet and no she isnt a parent and never will be.

I am really not sure how to handle this as no matter how much I tell my xH to please stop her from interfering in the parenting relationship he doesnt listen. Every communcaiton from him is worded with, WE have decided, WE have discussed. It is so annoying and I am sure he does it just to get to me.

As she will become their stepmother in a few weeks, I am anxious that this is going to get out of hand again and that she will now have even more leverage to become involved in my kids lives. I just noticed she send them a text saying congratulations on your report and Dad and I are so proud of you.

I know I am about to be replaced as his wife, but feel somehow in his eyes she is replacing me as their mother as well as he never refers to me as mom in any context anymore and feel that it is my against the two of them. I know that physcially she cant replace me, but in his eyes and in terms how he views things she is the mother in their little family and relationship. I am almost positive that she will ask them to call her mum at some point.

I really dont know how to handle this anymore as appealing my xH has no impact at all.

Any suggestions or views or those that have been in a similar situation would be appreciated.

Thanks,