but in both cases you were the ones that decided to move out. That's not the case here.
Though I'm betting your wife would agree, right jack?
I know when you moved out X, you had reach a point that it was the first step toward divorce. W wasn't working on things.
Jack, was it the same for you?
For me, that is not the case. It's like a total leap into the volcano. (now if you get that reference..then I know we could be great friends IRL) I realize it wouldn't mean the same if it there were guarantees.
The thing I struggle with now is that I find myself getting mad at my W. I don't want that anger to build to contempt for her.
I don't know how it was for you two before you moved out, but the thing is ... for me it's really good. We have a lot of good interactions, we have family time, we have some one-on-one time, but not a lot. No fights, no major conflict. etc. I know this is one-sided and my W does feel some tension, but it's not enough to not want me around. She told me today that she likes hanging out with me.
Of course there is lots missing - affection, sex, etc. I won't say that I don't' miss those.
Plus my W is dragging her feet on the IC (sound familiar XYZ) I mean I got a referral yesterday, called today and set up an appt. for Monday.
Of course, the IC maybe be bad thing in the long run. like one of these jerks who encourages divorce.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
