but certainly not with the person she has been over the last 6 months
I can totally relate to not wanting to want to be with the person she is today. Are you the same person you were six months ago? I suspect not. Do you think that you have done enough of the work on yourself? My only point here is that maybe instead of still thinking and focusing on the person that she is today…spend more time focusing on who YOU really want to be in…six month, 1 year, etc.
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I just look foward to meeting someone new.
Do you have a dog? And Hey…I’m not chop liver here…ya just met me <insert picture of Eric smiling>
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Romance is not my objective. Female companionship is.
Man to man… “female companionship”….honestly dude. Why not just go out with a bunch of guys? Actually, before you answer me…allow me to explain what happened when I did it. First off, I was broken. I felt like chit. My self esteem was at an all time low. A women, I thought would fix this. I can look back on it now….I justified my actions to myself. I talked myself into saying that this was good for me, “I had every right”, “I was just moving on”, “just a friendly date”, “it was just a companion’, blah, blah, blah,…What I did not do was be honest with myself. I did not call it for what it was, which was….I needed to be validated. I needed to feel that a women wanted me. I needed to feel like “I still had it”….I needed to feel “love”, “a connection”…hell I needed some sex. I am not saying that you are me World. No. My only advice is be really honest with yourself. Is this something that you really need right now? What are your true reasons for going out on the date? Pssst….one last point….deep down inside I wanted my STBXW to know…I wanted her to find out…I was…hoping…no…praying….that this would be the wake up call that she needed. Guess what? I didn’t work and when it didn’t I was still vulnerable, lonely and remorseful. In the end, people got hurt. Hurt that could have been avoided had I just been…….. HONEST WITH MYSELF.
World, you know yourself better than I do so maybe none of this applies to you. That said, I would apply the old DB 101 mantra…if it stings…if there is some truth to it…then look at it.
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At this time, my W definitely seems to be sorting things out
What makes you say this? I am not disagreeing with you. I just wonder how you know this. Has she said it to you? Are you mind reading? Are you just optimistic?
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Positive changes are occuring between she and I, and need to continue, regardless of whether we ever get back together.
I hope I don’t offend you with this World….your actually growing on me dude …YOU see that comment up there…about positive interactions…..I think it’s great man. I really do. So……is a date with another women (probably some hottie too)…worth loosing that? Is it worth adding to the confusion of all of this? I am not telling you what to do, condoning what you do….I am only asking you to think about it. I did it. I didn’t listen…most do not…YOU World should do what YOU, in your heart, think is best for World and his kids. One more question…when your kids get older…when/if they ask….”Daddy….how much do/did you love mom?”..what answer do you want to give them? World…I can honestly say that in my case, I cannot give them the answer that I really would have wanted to. I am not trying to guilt you into not going on the date. That is not my intent…just think about this World…think about this date. If your wife were to wake up tomorrow….what would you say?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
