Goals:

1) I want H to spend casual, friendly time with me.

I will know I have met this goal when he seeks me out for conversation and does not spend time alone, hiding from the family.

2) I want to improve my physical health

I will know I have met this goal when I lose 30 more lbs and can do my entire pilates workout without a break.

Are those small/doable enough?

H: 39, Me: 37
SD: 18, S: 7
M: 9, T: 10
"I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11
Discovered online affair - 7/11