When you're right, you're right. Yes, your observations did upset me. Most probably because you made me face what was partly the truth.
I will really have to think about this date. It intrigues me, and I just look foward to meeting someone new. Romance is not my objective. Female companionship is. Good thing I have a couple of weeks to weigh this need. If I am still inclined to go on this date, discretion (another location, away from this town) would appear extremely advisable. My life should be kept private. However, I now realize I do need to care about information that leaks back to my W. Avoidance of conflict is what has improved my life with my W over the last few months. Hence, why risk voiding my options with my W through careless / needless actions?
As you indicated, MLC is a long process. At this time, my W definitely seems to be sorting things out. She appears well past the worst of her crisis, though cycling back could also occur. For the last 2 months, she has become much more pensive and introspective, and seeks time alone. On the other hand, she is still cordial to the family and keeps in constant contact with her girls. Positive changes are occuring between she and I, and need to continue, regardless of whether we ever get back together.
As for her MLC process, I can’t see or tell what’s going on with her thoughts, and I can’t help her or "fix" her. This I know. However, I can hurt the situation with my actions, so I must be really careful and introspective of my motives and try hard to balance my desires to expand GAL. One must act unselfishly, but also be mindful of the future. My W’s MLC story is still being written. I now see that it is important to stay out of her storyline as much as possible.
Thanks again and no worries. Keep calling it as you see it (I know you will!).
