You have my understanding, sympathy and a whole lot of empathy. No matter how it's done, IMO, it's still like having the rug pulled out from under your feet. When this all first happened for me a friend of mine simple said, " forget him." Hindsight says if I had done just that, I probably would have been a lot further along than I am now.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.