I am the devil....

[MHL]

She has even blamed me for thinking that she wasn't dark enough. Are you kidding? I love dark-haired women. My W is a beautiful dark-haired woman.

Maybe it is because I love Alicia Keys? I'm being serious.

Dude........Your W is BATSH!T CRAZY right now.......

and guess what?????

You are headed in the same direction if you continue to look at her and think about her and focus on her........

so much so that you are going to go crazy with her....

I hate to give 2X4's when someone is hurting.......

and I know you are hurting.....bad. I know.....

However.....you are headed to "Stucksville".

Other stuff is just out there like: "you never took me to the right grocery store." THAT was her number one reason.

You are telling us the same things over and over again.....

I don't know how many times you have told us this....

yes it is crazy, doesn't make sense, its not logical.....


WE KNOW........and WE keep telling you to look away.

CLOSE FACEBOOK..........Get rid of it.......

I absolutely hate that FB is the barometer by which so many here measure the feelings of their wayward spouses.

This forum has been around longer than FB and I can tell you that FB while is a great communication source.....it is not a replacement for human interaction in the real world.

This is harsh TAD but you have to start doing the right thing for you.......if you don't you are going to be one messed up person.

If that scares you......good.

You are making progress......

Today is the first day that I have cried in nearly a month. I thought that I was doing so well. I guess not.

Wow, a whole month without crying.....that is good. Look back over your shoulder.

That is pretty darn good considering where you were 5 months ago.

This won't be the last time that you have a "bad day"....

in fact the bad days will turn into bad moments and then they will fade away only to come back in flashes here and there....

but it does take time.....

and

focusing on you.

hang in there.

cheers