Can My Marriage Be Saved?

[a girl]

Had a talk tonight after MC. I asked how he can say he's "trying" to work on our relationship when he's constantly hiding from me - upstairs when I'm in the office, in the office when I'm in the bedroom, basically no interaction with me at all.

He agreed he had been hiding, and it's because it's too hard to be around me - I'm always sad, I make him feel sad because I want him to stay married to me and he can't. He said he can't get over the past, and now the MC is saying regardless of what happens with us, he personally needs to find a way to come to terms with it - that seemed to hit him.

I told him that at this point, I don't want to be with him - I don't want to be with someone who has given up on me. I don't want to talk about the marriage, the relationship, any of it - it's too much stress, it makes us miserable.

I told him I want to work on just being friends. Continuing to see the MC and trying to have a friendship - regardless of what happens, we need that, if only for our son.

That seemed to make him feel better - he came and sat by me on the couch, so that was nice. We chatted a bit about normal stuff.

We'll see how it goes - I truly believe that the basis of any relationship is friendship, so if we can just focus on that for a while, maybe the rest will come. If not, at least we'll have that for our son's sake.