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[Lonely in SLC]

My wife and I have now been separated for almost 4 months. One of the most difficult things for me is being patient. I am a man, I see something, I go after it. I no know that this is the worst thing I can be doing, so I have been studying up on trials and patience. I found some things that may help others. The following is part of a discourse from a leader of my religion.

"From my experience, I learned that patience was far more than simply waiting for something to happen-patience required actively working toward worthwhile goals and not getting discouraged when results didn't appear instantly or without effort.

There is an important concept here: patience is not passive resignation, nor is it failing to act because of our fears. Patience means active waiting and enduring. It means staying with something and doing all that we can-working, hoping, and exercising faith; bearing hardship with fortitude, even when the desires of our hearts are delayed. Patience is not simply enduring; it is enduring well!

Impatience, on the other hand, is a symptom of selfishness. It is a trait of the self-absorbed."

I believe that patience is a heavenly virtue that we must all cling too. The best way to learn it is through our trials. I guess Heavenly Father gives each of us different trials to learn this heavenly attribute and to grow. I am reminded that the children of Israel waited 40 years in the wilderness before entering into the promised land. Jacob waited 7 years before he could marry Rachel.

One positive change that I have noticed in myself is that I am much more empathetic to others that are having troubles. Before, I could care less. Now, I can understand their pain, even if their sorrows are different from mine.

Well, I hope this helps others that may come across my thread.