I am so lost... Please someone help me! 2

[25yearsmlc]

I said what I said b/c of the numerous gentle pep talks I have given you that have NOT helped you enough to change your behaviors...

these were BEFORE and after you learned of this affair. Frankly the

affair changes nothing IN TERMS OF YOUR APPROACH. Yes I KNOW it hurts.

As for your physician, if you think of him as a DB expert, great. If not,

pick ONE approach and stick with it.

Taking polls from different sources isn't going to do much but confuse and diffuse whatever approach you take.

If it so happens that it's in line with DB great.

But as has been pointed out

you are then giving her an ultimatum and

I don't see you as being willing to follow through so then

you'll want to change your mind OR back down

and that's about the worst thing to do now, for your own sense of boundary setting, among other reasons.


And don't forget that to your w, it wasn't so much an Affair. Well...maybe

Let's just agree that SHE and YOU don't see it alike.

So to HER, what's to apologize for?

See why putting your focus on THAT, isn't helpful?