I will be equally as blunt with you ... I knew that you would misunderstand, but that's OK. We both have our methods and opinions. This is not a ploy in any context. It's called GAL my friend, and unless you've walked in my shoes, you would not know how to lead mine. Control over my life is all I seek. If you want others to respect your position, first be sure you are strong in your beliefs. Then be wiling to follow through.
I am not looking for a long term relationship from dating anyone. As I said, it's called GAL, and as far as I can tell, I have not been in a R with my W for the past 6 months. We have a business arrangement and we coparent our children. That is it. If my W ever chooses to work on our R at some later date, as I've said, I will leave to porch light on. But it will by MY choice to reconcile, NOT hers. So you see, I am rather successfuly detaching and moving on with my life. She is very clear about wanting this future divorce, so I see no reason doubht her and choose to go on with my life. That includes dating other woman. That includes lots of fishing. That includes the 1/2 day I just took off with a buddy to hike a 542-foot waterfall in the Columbia River Gorge today, and then the microbrews in the sun afterword. That includes the BBQ with friends I have scheduled for this Saturday nigbht at my place.
Dating is not a ploy. Neither are fishing, hiking, microsbrews with friends, BBQ's, 4th of July's spent at the beach with the kids. It called living my life J3B, and I intended to live mine to it's fullest. I know that am in the process of healing when I accept my situation and not only choose to be happy, but do something about it.
