I would like to suggest two books, MWD's DB and [edited by dbmod to remove reference: advertising/book not recommended].

I am kind of stunned by what you have written. You sound like you don't want your marriage to end, but with the exception of getting into two counseling sessions, you seem to have given up and are deferring to her request for you to move out. Perhaps some of the details left out are what you have don't in the area of Getting a Life (GAL), any 180's you have tried to change the dynamic in your marriage so she will need to view you and relate to you in a different way.

GAL & 180's are things you can do to try to save your marriage, but you don't seem to be indicating that you are doing any of them.

If you are happy with the idea of a separation and "work on some things (kind of like dating each other" with you "wife," then that is your choice (or maybe her choice that you are deferring to.)

I am sorry that you are feeling bad. I would suggest that you get a few books on how to improve your relationship with your wife and that you do some things to improve yourself and to change the dynamic in your relationship with your wife in a positive way. Good luck.


Last edited by dbmod; 07/09/11 12:34 AM.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.