I think that point 2 is a really important one, I think the effect you are really trying to achieve is a gentle mystery rather than a big iron door clanging shut. You know.
Your "darkness" should really be about the fact that you are busy girl, you are GAL, you are reengaging in your world and in your life, you have other priorities, your living like a single woman. The real key for you - is that that needs to be your intention as well. You need to mean it! (wink)
I can't remember where I read it, but I read a little anecdote last week about a woman who was releasing co-dependent behaviour. She carried a little piece of lego around in her pocket and when she started thinking about what she could DO to get from point a to point b with her husband she fingered the little piece of plastic and said to herself "Lego and Let God."
Have a good day.
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
