We are taught, I hope, from this place that expecations are not good for our state of being in limbo.
When in piecing you are rebuilding a relationship.
AND a relationship is built upon expectations being met.
I will tell you right now that if my wife told me in all honesty that she loved me but we would never have sex again for any reason beyond a physical imparment. I'd see that as her not meeting my expectation.
Not telling the spouse about an expectation you have, but holding them to it?
Pretty passive aggresive behaviour.
Have you mentioned to her how important you would view that, when she made the appointment? At a time when she was listening and understood what you were saying?
You have mentioned this many times here, and I GET that it is important to you (and I'm a guy who doesn't listen)...how many times have you told her?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
