Spoke to my DB counselor. I gave him the upshot of what I've written on this thread. He agrees that I sound like I'm ready to go dark on STBX.
He gave me two caveats:
1) I'm to continue texting him Good Morning 2-3 times a week, not cut it out completely. Counselor was suprised at the chatty responses I've been getting. He sees it as a net positive, so I'm to continue, just do it sporadically.
2)I'm to watch myself that I do not project an attitude that this is in some way a punitive action. If he senses in the least that it's to get back at him, it won't make a difference.
I'm going to have to develop a good response to any questions that going dark may bring up.
Maybe: " I am sorry, it hurts to see you. I need time."
Got me, I'll have to think about it for a while. Suggestions are welcome!
Instead of repeating, " I don't care" to myself when he or the thought of him pops into my head, I've decided to change it to "Vaya con dios or Go with God." It will be a reminder to myself that it's out of my hands and control.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
