7 weeks to exH marries OW

[kat727]

I sometimes feel that "I did the right thing trying to save the marriage, raise the kids, get all of us emotionally back on track...why does he have someone and I don't?" Let's step back a moment and think of this a bit. I did a lot of hard work on me and for the kids. What did ex do? He cheated and left his wife and 4 kids. He never worked on himself or the issues that he was having. Thus his issues are probably still there but masked by his feelings of lust. He actually told me once that he must not have been in love with me for a long time because he had not had the 24/7 giddy hormone feeling for a long time with me. Really, you think??

Relationships take work and my ex is under the impression that if something isn't easy, if it takes work, then love must not reside there. I think we will both find mature(and I don't mean elderly!) men that get what it all really means.

hugs, kat