Don't know where I am

[XYZ]

felt like a major positive change in her was coming soon - it was almost a spiritual thing. It was probably wishful thinking.

I know exactly what you mean here. I've felt the exact same thing. Call it connection, sixth sense, wishful thinking, or whatever, but I say go with it!

[Harrier]

What gives...everyone has abandon me.

Woe is me. Anywho to further my thought above about a change.

No nothing happend substantively. Tonight, my W and I were playing with the kids outside. I started taking a new med on Saturday for me brain. The first time I took it on Sat. Night, I was woozy the next morning.

Tonight she asked me if I had any more side effects. I told her I didn't, but that the med seem to be helping me a lot. I said I didn't know if it was a placebo effect or the actual med. from what I've read it's the actual med. It's really strang in that it just kinda blocks my mind from "going there." i.e. any bad place or thought.

She then said that I she notice a huge change in me over the past couple days and I really seem to be back to my old self. I said I agree. She then said, "I wonder if you had gotten the med last year, if that would have helped things.? I said "You can't say for sure." I personally think it would have and I might not be in the mess.

I guess I can see this change in her eyes...it's hard to describe if you don't know what I'm talking about...it's a softening, opening, etc.

Now, it's probably too late for the move out plan, but I do sense something is changing. She also told me that she was kinda in a funk today and she just wanted to be home to spend time with me and the boys.

[Sad_but_happy]

Harrier,
I just want you to know that I'm reading and praying for the best for you.

Seems your W is coming around...

Remember, zero R talks...

It helps no one at this point...

Slow and steady my lawyer friend!

Have a great night...

[angel61]

Hey Harrier! No pity parties pls! I'm cheering for you!
I did read your post earlier but it was a busy work day so couldn't really post much.

The meds might be helping with the mood.

Keep it up, be upbeat, show your support to your W. The softening around the eys is very telling. Be careful now not to screw it up. Choose your words wisely, and don't ever bring up the S plans!

Will check back tomorrow.

[Harrier]

I think you can probably tell from my posts that I'm not a "keep it in" type of guy.

I was almost sucked into an R talk yesterday, but I let it drop.

My W probably just finished meeting with our MC right about now. I'm kinda curious what went on at that meeting. I had met with him in early June. He was kinda surprised as to where things were at. I'm very tempted to call and ask, but I won't.

S_B_H - I get what you are saying. But I don't think we can avoid R talks forever. I think they do have a place. I know if we get through this we will talk about what happened- not every day or every month.
Hows is the forgiveness going? Are you guys in MC? I think I read somewhere that your W has never apologized. Man that would be tough. My W apologized repeatedly and frankly is pretty disgusted with herself with her EA.

Angel- don't worry. I have a pretty good plan now and am executing it. Words haven't been the problem, it's been actions.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I'd get 2 points, however I'll admit to cheating/google. In my defense that movie was AWESOME and the quote was familar. Steve Martin and Black and White.

Ok Eyeore,

I read every post you make here and most in the other areas, just so you know. : )

You know, or have an idea of what works and you know or have an idea of what does work. If you make a mistake, I don't think you're the type of guy who enjoys a who bunch of people sticking your nose in the carpet.

I...could be wrong here?

I absolutuely agree with you that once you are in piecing, R talks HAVE to happen. But I believe that piecing is only piecing when both spouses are committed to being married...or at least MOSTLY committed.

Those meds seem to be helping you with her, do you feel comfortable on them?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

edit-

You know, or have an idea of what works and you know or have an idea of what DOESN'T work.

that makes more sense.

[Harrier]

You read all those posts...is that your GAL?

You are correct, if I make a mistake, I beat myself up more than anyone else.

Well I'm not in piecing...at least officially. I personally have NO IDEA where my wife is today. I mean it seems before my eff up on Saturday, she was open to the idea of MC, then she wasn't, the she talked about keep the MC as an option. I do know she isn't keen on it now.

Nothing earth shattering from the my W's appt with the MC. I was kinda bummed then I remember it usually takes a day or 2 to have what he says sink in. I'm dying to know what they talked about, but my curiosity will have to remain unsatiated.

I want to add a point about the meds. I have been on an Anti-D for almost a year. The new med was like a supplement to that to help. I think it has help and I am okay with them for now. I don't know, if they'd be a long term thing. I mean if things wee going swimmingly with W, I don't think I'd need them.

Since my W is a Neuropsychologist, she can give me lots of info on the drugs and how they work. I think she's pleased with the result. I will add it's not only the drugs. I'm trying to follow DB better than I did in the past. That is also part of the change. But that's our little secret. mmmmmm kay?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

No it's not my GAL. : )

It's my coin and I feel like I can help, so its for me as well.

Curiousity is a little cat that grows into a demon if you let it.

Although, if it takes a day or two for his words to sink in, then you'll likey have an idea of what they talked about based upon her words/actions in a day or two.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

my coin...paying it forward...not that I get paid for this.