Johnnie i've been posting right behind Starksy lately, and i gotta say i agree with everything thats said. Same with 25. and all the others.
your revised apology is much better. minus the last part where you make promises. stick to the bare minimum, dont promise anything. no undying love, no heroics, no better me's. [b] stick to "what has happened", drop the "what will happens".
keep it as short as possible, dont leave in anything that she can twist or argue or deny. [/b]
and no flowery mushy love cards with kittens and monkeys on the front. a simple blank no picture no printed words card is the best.
and dont expect anything from this apology. chances are you wont get it. this is for your own conscience. everything is for yourself so that someday when you look back, you have no doubts that you did the right thing always.
This^^ is why I think you could add "just thought you should know" So she knows YOU EXPECT NO REPLY FROM HER....otherwise, I prefer KenF's response below, to mine/yours.
"Wife... I apologize for how I handled myself on Sunday. If I had some time to process my thoughts and feelings first, I would have handled things much differently. I am not apologizing for having those feelings, they are genuine. JJ"
And this is only IF YOU SEND ANYTHING...I'm not positive you should. IF you feel it's needed I guess so.
But I have a feeling you are again looking for an excuse to pursue her
which is the opposite of what SHE wants and it's continued pursuit of her that WE ALL KNOW will hurt your cause...
Just b/c you are lonely does not mean you have to "DO" another pursuing behavior. ( It turns ME off and I'm not your w)
...you have to start seeing how UNappealing it is to her,
for you to keep on pressing and pursuing...comes off as desparate and NOT LOVING...
Need is NOT = Love
Desparate Need = a TURN OFF
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