Mort Fertel does also say not to make any decisions for a year. I looked into him and signed up for his emails. They do make sense and are along the same lines as DB. I am trying to be more patient and realize it took us a long time to get to this place and if we can get out it will take a long time. I really want us to be able to be friends again no matter what happens with our relationship. Our kids are young and we have to parent them together.
I know in your sitch it is different you don't have kids together but I think that will make it easier to stop the contact and really give him a chance to process what is going on and to miss really miss you and your life together. I know it is hard but you can do it!! Look how far you have come!!
Feels good to make a decision based on what is best for YOU!
