At the beginning of my journey

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JustBombed, I'm catching up with your sitch. Yes, your H is behaving like a typical WAS - he's up, he's down, he's your good friend, he's the devil himself...the only thing consistent about them is their complete inconsistency. My W (who is still in the home w/ me) acts exactly the same way. She is more discreet about her EA, but she still texts and calls him often. She, too, was hell-bent on moving out right after the bomb, but has done nothing to proceed in that direction.

IMHO: I'd set some ground rules about your H texting the OW's in front of you. That is, to me, nothing but cruel disrespect, and you do not deserve to be subject to that. If he is not going to stop the texting, at least tell him to take it outside of the home.