as for you not sucking up enough for your sons to have the shoes ex h promised
I'd have laughed & asked if he was serious...
You have gotten great advice here. Mainly if you have to mind read, don't make it so great to be them.
And take charge of your life more. You sound "resigned" and that's not a great way to attract what you want in life.
You have more going for you than you are admitting. I know you feel rejected
(well you were rejected.) I get that. But one man's opinion of his needs and wants
feels terrible when he was your h for so long BUT in reality, it may have
all been about HIM. WHat if that's the case?
Then all this pain you are inflicting on yourself is useless
in fact, unless you are working on self improvement, and learning something,
why do this to yourself at all?
Be gentle with yourself.
And don't forget to model strong healthy behavior for your sons...they will have their hearts broken too one day.
Teach them that their pain, like yours, is not eternal,
Nor is it fatal. You will survive and thrive and you will be happy again.
The dating? Takes practice.
Be friends first, but imagine sex with OM being a good thing...and then get used to that image!!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
