I don't know how it works in the U.S. but in Canada, unless there are certain reasons to do otherwise, you must wait one year to file for a divorce. Maybe after one year passes there is less intensity around it, I dunno. I haven't done it because it's just not something I see as urgent. I don't have anyone in my life that I'm dating, have no one I plan to ask and therefore don't see what difference it makes at this point. If I was involved with someone it might be a different story.Maybe I'm wrong and am missing some psychological aspect of the whole deal, who knows. There's also the financial aspect to consider. If I file for D I pay the shot, she doesn't even need a lawyer to represent her 'cuz I don't need her agreement for a D. Now, in my friend's case, her husband can be very difficult and they did not have a SA when he left and without that it can make the D procedure much more complicated as everything has to be negotiated and agreed upon from scratch. I think she just doesn't want the hassle with him. Things are going well right now in raising the kids and co-parenting so why rock the boat. She doesn't need the crap. Anyway, that's my take on things...for now.
