honestly thought a spouse helps each other especially when they don't see it themselves cause maybe they are too sick. I would hope H would do the same to me.
Sometimes it works this way, but not always.
We can encourage, support, and hope they get help or do what they need, just like they could do that for us, but we can't push, coerce, or force it upon them.
That is controlling and we can't control the lives of others even if we want to...
Neither BF or myself are great about going to the doctor...
I'm better than him but still not great
I have asked him many times to just go for a checkup...
This past week, my stubborn stepfather had a stroke at 61. It was scary. And it possibly could have been prevented had he taken better care of himself medically over the years...
I have again requested BF go for a physical, for my peace of mind more than anything else...
Maybe he will maybe he won't but I can't force him to do it...
I could beg and plead and bargain (ok I did try to bargain and beg) but he is an adult and I have done all that I can...
See my point?
As far as other people's opinions, they don't have to live your life or live with your choices.
Only you have to do that.
So while they may be well meaning, it isn't up to them...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
