In the book it says that not communicating is NOT the cause of disconnectedness, rather, it is the other way around.
I kinda get that. Our MC said that there is a certain comfort level people obtain before they can be comfortably silent around each other. That was light-bulb moment for me. I don't know if you are there yet, but silence isn't necessarily deadly.
My W is very big on this. She finds it very comforting that we can sit and watch tv w/o talking. I think it's a reaction to her family - which are yakkers. For me, the silences is harder to take, but once I saw her POV it was easier to understand.
I do think your H is being a bit unfair about the planning things. I mean it almost seems he give no respect to your ideas to the point where he'd expect you to cancel plans.
have you ever tried just doing stuff w/o him and see how he takes it.
On Monday, my W was going into work and I thought about suggesting we have breakfast out as a family before she went in. I decided not to, but I did say. "I was thinking of taking the boys to breakfast on Monday, since you are going in." She then took up the idea and said that she would like to go with us if it was early enough. We ended up having breakfast as a family.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
