Stop the Coaster, I want OFF!

[ninelives]

Thanks again everybody. The overwhelming theme seems to be that I am not out of the woods yet by a long shot to quote 25. ( Which I often do) BTW 25, hope you are well. I understand there was surgery.

I am so torn on what to do. I really like the OW but I do love my wife and I do understand that I can have a life with someone else and possibly a great life. I just never imagined it without my wife. I am sorry that I think this post will be jumbled.

IN a perfect world, I want to believe that she learned her lesson, was terrorized by this dungheap and simply made bad choices that she couldnt get out of. If this forum has taught me nothing, its to understand the frailty of this bag of chemicals known as humans and to forgive. I could NEVER have forgiven or even thought of it before I found this.

TIME again must be what stirs the drink here. I have to be patient and as many of you have said. BE THERE for her and help her get through this trauma for now. Help her feel safe and then see where it goes from there.

I think that is all I can do. WE are going to the city to watch a movie and have dinner as a family. Just for normalcy.

Beyond that, I guess I will have to look for signs in her how she is feeling and encourage her to get help and be healthy.

Thanks again for all the replies, they are excellent as always and I read each and every one very carefully.

Good thing Im ninelives cause a couple of them are on shaky ground right now.

Good one nine, very funny.

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