My gut says go over there with a ring, get on my knees and tell her I've been a fool and that I want to spend the rest of my life with her -- although I tried TELLING her that right after the breakup to no avail.
That is extremely unattractive.
Pursuing will get you nowhere.
She lost respect for you when she was in pursuit and you resisted. She lost trust in you when you failed to meet her emotional needs.
Originally Posted By: DBinSF
This has all been met with "I'm glad you're figuring stuff out, but I don't want to share my life with you anymore. It will be great for 4-6 months again, but then just fall apart in the long run."
Listen what she is telling you here.
You need to become the world's most interesting and attractive man. No begging, gifting, kneeling and crying will do that.
Actions not words. She does not trust your words, so don't waste your breath.
Start working on yourself to become attractive again. You have been honest about your failures so list them all and understand how they contributed to the fall of your R.
Change the way you think about your current situation.
Women like confident, strong and honest men. The want to feel safe and secure in their relationships.
If you are able to get her to come out and meet, you need to be the catnip.
Your relationship as it stands is dead.
If you want a new one, you need to change the dynamics and the approach.
