Originally Posted By: KenF
"It seem like when I try to make her ..."

That's the key right there. and has been the common theme running through all your responses. and we've all done it.

you're trying to make her do something.

you cant make her wonder. Cant Make. you need to understand this.

its the key to everything. everyone has been telling you this.

its not sincere. and it comes across as such. you will always fail if "making her" is your goal.


DBing is all about you.
Stop trying to make her see or make her feel. whatever you choose to do, do it sincerely for yourself. only for yourself.


get contacts for yourself. lose weight for yourself. buy new clothes for yourself. join a gym for yourself. ride a bike for yourself. volunteer for yourself. see a movie for yourself.

in the end, regardless what happens, worst case scenario: you'll be a better person in a better place.

will you save your M? who knows. some do some dont. DBing is really about saving yourself.




THIS ^^^^ is something you MUST process, digest and keep in mind at all times...this is key.

This is essential to you "getting" it.
You are getting great advice here, saying roughly the same things...

Know it...b/c

Where the head goes, the heart will, eventually, follow.


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
Embrace the Change