Stop the Coaster, I want OFF!

[25yearsmlc]

wow, what a ride.

i agree with everyone, take it slow.

I really do wish you the best. 2x4s are on their way, and i don't mean to insult you or your x. i apologize if i come off as insensitive, that's not my intention.

get her into counseling, get her meds straightened out. You're both very confused, and this all happened so fast with so much drama. and unfortunately, its not over yet.

get her well BEFORE even beginning to consider to think about talking about getting back together. my guess is that you're both months away from anything healthy.

I'm sorry to say this, but i see a lot of manipulation on her part. Playing the victim, while asking about OW. and careful about accepting her excuse of being sick, it strikes me as if she found a quick simple excuse to everything.

it didn't have to happen this way.

this^^^^^


she could have left him, but instead chose the path of maximum drama and sucked you right in.

and this^^^


she knowingly created the situation that made herself a victim and is asking you to forgive her past because she is a victim.

you also need to stop with the R talk, you're also manipulating her. you need to withdraw so as to not confuse the situation and healing process.

Go back to DBing.

my fear would be that you'll lose sight of the issues that need to be addressed, while you're caught up in the anger at him and the chivalry of saving her.


absolutely ^^^^ please don't make all your painful suffering and growth be for naught

keep sight of the big picture. remind yourself of your thoughts before this episode started with her seeing you with[b] OW. this drama changed the details and the immediate circumstances, but you dont know yet how it affects the big picture.
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part of me wants to know how women like your w

gets a man like you...(and I mean that as a compliment to you.)


I also find it very disturbing that your w felt it necessary to get hit in order for her to leave OM....and


coincidentally this somehow happened

only when

you dated OW...

I fear your drama is not over my friend.

But I have a lot of faith in Retrovaille and if she does get help, real help,

you have a shot.


At least now you also know that there are other women out there

who do not have all this baggage and not all of your history together

is so hot...


Your w has some problems. Hopefully you see there is an upside of not being with her. I say this b/c you are not out of the woods by a long shot

so if this isn't going to pan out, you have to keep your eyes open to the reality

that not all was well with her or the m. Don't be blinded by a wounded ego or false recall.
We all do it to some extent, I'm not giving you a 2x4 for it.

But I"m concerned by the idea that her getting hit got you so worked up so fast never mind that she created the situation and admits it

...and lacks the insight to see how UNhealthy that is...

(I'm bothered by how it worked so fast on YOU...)

But if you can at least admit (as I think you are) that she's a mixed bag

and life without her might NOT be all bad at all....

(there are normal women out there you know...seriously...)


Know this^^^^. And remember you DO have choice in this

and that's very freeing. And empowering.

Turns the LBSer into the possible MLCer...

make sense?

Don't give away your power again.