Because HER GAL is real and you have to fake your "happiness" for now...
It's killing you because she will have genuine fun and you will be thinking of nothing but her and your sitch tonight...
And she knows it...
And that's ok... You've done well...
This is how it starts...
And here is the secret... Your W happiness and carefree days will end...
The day you no longer have to fake it...
The day you truly start living for you...
The day she NO LONGER has you as a back up plan...
The day you move on for real, she will move closer... It's human nature...
Check out ninelives thread for proof of that...
Keep in mind that OM and her had a fantasy life... No work stress, no kid stress, no life stress, etc. Those things will now slowly creep in if she continues any kind of contact with him (and I hope she's not)...
Right now she got away with murder... She had a blast for x months, enjoyed new experiences and the feelings of a new relationship and she STILL has you there... Pining, wanting, needing... I know, I was there too...
Go out, have fun, find that confident man you used to be... And be confident in tbe knowledge that if your W doesn't follow, someone great will...
Good luck...
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
