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[Queen_of_Swords]

Short ipdate in this forum...all the inner turmoil can be read on the Walking in Muskeg 3 and 4 threads in Mid Life Crisis forum, if you're intersted.

I'm going to talk to my DB counselor about going as dark as I can, and a strategy to apply that in my own situation.

I generally confront head on, but I think I need a more subtle approach.

I don't want to do what I've been doing anymore. It isn't working for me. It has been exhausting. disturbs my peace of mind and has , in my opinion made it much easier for STBX to justify his decision and settle into things knowing that I'm available, accomodating and friendly.

He is not my friend. He's no longer my husband except on paper and he won't address his own garbage. That's the sum of it.

For my own self preservation and emotional equilibrium I can't deal with him the way I have been.
I give. He has what he wants, may he find much joy in it.


It's time to shut up, and turn away.