I can only speak for myself, but I was the WAS in my first M. I had someone I had a crush on (not quite to the EA point), but I knew that we wouldn't get together after my separation. So, in effect I jumped without a parachute.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011